How’s your self talk?
Want to know something I'm really embarrassed of?
I never play this gorgeous piano even though I genuinely love to.
Want to know why?
Because I'm not "as good" as I think I should be.
So instead of playing it more so I can get to a deeply satisfying skill level, I let it sit unused and watch it collect dust. "I'll play it when I'm good enough." Goooood luck with that, Kate! (If you're nodding your head right now because you can totally relate, you're my people.)
This isn't a blog post about how I'm going to add "play the damn piano" to my 2023 goal list, this is a post where I show you Self Love In Action. So here's my actual self talk from this piano scenario:
"I wish I had played my piano at least once in 2022. But I didn't. Unless you count the time I dropped a bottle of vanilla oleoresin on it and it played two notes. No? Ok. Well, that sucks, I really regret that. *Sigh* But I choose to forgive and love myself anyway. It’s ok that I failed myself. I am still just as worthy of love even when I disappoint myself like this."
This kind of radical self acceptance isn't delusional-- I am acknowledging the fact that I disappointed myself and am letting myself feel sad. When I embrace my failures and the broad spectrum of my emotions with wild self love, I stay whole.
And you know what? Once I accepted this reality, I felt much better. So much better in fact, that I actually sat down and played my piano in joy. (And yes, I am ruuustaaaaay. Starting with Regina Spektor's 'Us' was probably not the wisest choice right off the bat, but I had fun nonetheless)
Getting over self sabotage is just one of the many random offshoot wins you get for free when you truly learn to love yourself. I meant it when I said self love impacts EVERY area of your life!
That's why the biggest game changer in my coaching program is the step where you learn to release self punishment.
So if you're looking for a habit to quit in 2023, PLEASE let it be self punishment. And I can help you with that! Book a complimentary coaching session to see if I'm the coach for you.