Part of rewilding yourself means reclaiming your body in wholeness. So often I see women stopping their rewilding after unlocking their sexuality. We think, “Ok, I did it! I’m WILD now 😛. Owning my wild means being overtly sexual as much as possible right?” The answer is… mostly, probably, no.

In-your-face sexuality is just the opposite of repressed sexuality; it’s often an important step in finding balance, but it isn’t the final answer.

The answer is the more difficult thing (sorry): integrating your sexuality into your whole self and understanding that it’s just one aspect of you, no greater or lesser than any other part. We were raised to believe that our worth is dependent upon our ability to please others while denying our own pleasure. The unhealthy glorification of youth & patriarchal beauty standards we were spoonfed cause us to grasp at our newfound sexual liberation in an attempt to prove ourselves. “I’m taking ownership of myself as a strong woman & rejecting cultural expectations, but don’t worry- I’m still pleasing! See? Let me show you how seggsy I am so you can validate me!”

This is not a criticism. I understand this well; I’ve been there myself. But as long as we’re measuring our worth with the Patriarchy’s ruler, we’ll never find deep, expansive, & honest self love.

The truth is, loving your whole, wild self & integrating her/them into your daily life is scary work. It takes practice, little by little. But remember that every aspect of your life, your body, your soul belongs to you. You can take your power and sensuality back from the Patriarchy at any time.

I want this for us.

I want it bad.

If you’re sitting here thinking, “say more things, Kate,” I have private 1:1 Wild Self Love coaching sessions available- let’s set up a consult call ASAP